So write the fight. Write the reconciliation. Write the betrayal. But remember: don’t just make them argue. Make them understand why they are arguing. That is the difference between noise and tragedy.
When we watch the Roy siblings in Succession tear each other apart for a media empire, we aren’t necessarily billionaires—but we recognize the desperate need for a parent’s approval. When we read about the March sisters in Little Women , we recognize the quiet resentment of the dutiful sister watching the wild one get all the attention. Complex family relationships work because they hold a mirror up to our own suppressed anxieties.
When we watch the epic fight in Marriage Story , we learn how love curdles into resentment. When we read Hamlet , we learn the danger of a family that cannot speak the truth. And when we binge the fifth season of Shameless , we feel a strange comfort: our family isn't so broken after all.