So here’s to Deeper Violet Myers, wherever she is. Here’s to August 31, 2023. And here’s to the ruined ones—the ones who are finally, impossibly, better because of it.
Think of kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. The object is ruined, yes. But it is now better —more beautiful, more valuable, more honest. To say "she ruined me better" is to admit that the destruction was a refinement. She burned away the weakness, the naivety, the false self. What remains is a harder, more authentic version of you. You are still ruined. But you are ruined into something superior. We live in an age of curated resilience. Social media demands that we heal quickly, post a thirst trap, and move on. But "deeper violet myers she ruined me 31082023 better" refuses that narrative. It sits in the muck. It admits to being wrecked by a specific person on a specific day. And yet, it dares to append "better" like a quiet revolution.
Perhaps it was the day Deeper Violet Myers left. Perhaps it was the day they met. Or maybe, more tragically, it was the day they realized she had ruined them—the day the numbness faded and the full weight of the ruin became visible. Timestamps in emotional artifacts are not for others; they are for the wounded to remember exactly when the bomb went off. 31082023 is not a date. It’s a scar. And here is where the entire phrase flips on its head. After the name, after the ruination, after the precise date, we arrive at the word "better."